This is the one that is complicated.

Posted April 23rd, 2010 by Mike Lawson

To quote Neil Sedaka, “Breaking up is hard to do.”

It’s especially tough nowadays when all of our lives are intertwined through our blogs, facebook pages, twitter accounts and the super stalkery location-aware apps like Foursquare and Gowalla.

It took a week or so for Dan and I to figure out what the next few months were going to look like.  We’re both pretty smart people, and we thought that we had all of our bases covered and were pretty prepared to deal with this new phase in our lives.

One tiny problem that we didn’t think too much about was how our virtual lives are intertwined.  I know that he reads this blog (hi).  We read one another’s Twitter feed.  We follow each other on Foursquare and Gowalla.  An eighth of my facebook friends I know through Daniel.

It’s complicated.

For example, I changed my Facebook status:

And it was a very calculated thing.  Who is going to see this, I thought.   And who should I tell in person first.  I’m facebook friends with my nephew…so I called my mom before changing my status because she might die if she heard this kind of news secondhand.

And to make these muddy waters murkier, I need to figure out how to blog and tweet without censoring my message for fear of how Dan might read it.  And then I’ll work on not over analyzing the things that Mr. D puts on his blog and twitter feed?

Fucking hell.

In 1962 when Sedakas wrote his famous breakup song, he really had no idea.